This is particularly true when it comes to flirting.

The promise-withdraw routine is the very heart of flirting.

Understanding the suffering that leads some to take their lives represents rock-solid common ground that is a priority for everyone – especially learning how to prevent it in the future ( Something profound takes place when someone decides to simply stop this kind of aggressive fighting with themselves or their own feelings.

As described by mindfulness teacher Jon Kabat-Zinn, “we are going to be looking deeply into each moment with full acceptance and not trying to force ourselves to be different from how we are right now.” Laying aside the different ways this self-acceptance unfolds, people almost universally experience the cessation-of-fighting as hugely relieving.

Rather than re-think the fundamental approach, some speak of their urgency and desire only increasing: “My desperation grew to get fixed, for lack of a better word” (FB-BE) The despair is compounded by discovering the attraction not “going away completely.” As one man recounted, “I still felt I couldn’t shake the feelings of the attraction.

Tragically, some people never find a way out of this desperate and aggressive space.

Denn wer nicht offen über seine Sexualität spricht, der kann sie selten so ausleben, wie er gerne möchte.

Und das schadet auf Dauer jeder Liebe und der Lust!

Interessant: Laut einer Studie ist nicht einmal die Hälfte der Deutschen zufrieden mit ihrem Sex-Leben!

Und obwohl Frauen in den Dreißigern erfahrener im Bett sind als mit 18, sinkt die Zufriedenheit laut Statistik ab dem 30. Umso wichtiger ist es, dass Paare über Sexualität beziehungsweise sexuelle Vorlieben offen sprechen.