So, you figure you'd give one of the many online dating sites a shot. Or is it one of those new apps that you can get on your phone like Tinder or Hinge?

You're wondering what the best one where you can find the highest quality man is. Whatever it is, I'm going to share with you what thousands of men have shared with me over the years: what they really think about when it comes to online dating. The Plain Old Truth—They're Not Reading Your Profile.

There are a multitude of reasons why this happens, but at the core, he is not ready or able to embark in a substantive relationship, regardless of what his profile says.

Rather, he moves from one online-created connection to the next, or back and forth between many, and barely if ever have to leave the house.

You're really hitting it off, but the dude is basically a ghost. No one who online dates is "off the grid." He's hiding a dark secret (or he just has a girlfriend).2. And then suddenly you don't hear from him for 12 hours. Either his mom gets sick or he gets a flat tire or his mom gets sick again. Bailing eight times means he's hoping you'll send him nude pictures without him ever having to actually meet you.9. He's always complaining about the long hours he works, but he makes really good money, so it's OK. Everyone likes to talk themselves up when you first meet them, but he really forces conversations in odd directions just to get the chance to make himself look cool. Unless you are actually a giant baby, Benjamin Button-style, there's no reason for some guy you don't know to call you that.

Either he's being really forward with you or that "thinking of you" text was only sent to you because he wasn't paying attention.4.

You will part ways, and you will probably, almost certainly, begin again the next day with another “Hey there…” message from the next contender.

But if he's describing himself as an "entrepreneur" and refuses to get more detailed or refers to his job situation as "complicated" instead of being up front, that should be a red flag. Either he's seeing someone else and doesn't want to be spotted out with another woman in his hometown, he doesn't see a future with you and doesn't want you knowing where he lives just so he can keep his distance, or he's basically a hoarder and he doesn't want you to see the state his place is in.

I realize, as do you, that there are infinite varieties of men who engage in online dating for infinite reasons.

No many more types could be included on this list, and some men may fit into many categories.

Avoid the same mistakes and better your chances of finding a partner online!

I tell all my single girlfriends to give online dating a try. Your inbox will fill with notes from 19-year-olds in the ‘burbs, 40-somethings who find your taste in music “refreshing,” addled idiots writing “id fck u,” and a handful of age-appropriate, nice-looking guys who can string some sentences together and like to cook.