Maybe it’s choice, maybe it’s bad luck (or good luck) and maybe it shouldn’t even be factored into the relationship. ” That’s more important than his past marital status, don’t you think?Dear April Masini," After seven years of marriage, I just got divorced. Here are some things to consider when dating the divorced guy versus dating a guy who has never said “I do.” 1. Then again, maybe I’m not giving the never been married guy enough credit. Just be aware that he’s never been married, so up until now, he hasn’t. He’s carrying way less baggage than the divorced guy. When it comes to dating after divorce, the opposite of a divorced guy is a guy who has never been married! In my opinion, sometimes it feels like they are from different planets! Or, maybe he’ll run for the hills the first time he sees you sitting on the bathtub ledge clipping your toenails. Here’s a plus for the guy who has never tied the knot.Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick!Some forums can only be seen by registered members.You're holding out hope for the fairy tale that he'll wake up one morning and see the error in his ways and commit to you.Even if that does happen, are you willing to sit on your hands and wait for it to happen?
To avoid adding pressure, make sure that you know that you are both on the same path.Singledom has peaks and valleys just like a relationship does.For what you're doing with this married man is a tough situation.Divorces, like men, come in all shapes, sizes, and situations.Sometimes there are amicable divorces; sometimes there are epic divorces that last years and years with lots of “collateral damage.” But if you’re dating recreationally and not considering him as a long-term partner, then these questions might not matter as much, since you’re not concerned with long-term compatibility.TIP 1: Make sure you are both aligned to what you want.Even though he said he wanted kids, I could tell half way through our dating that things had changed, and I ignored the signs.